Something has been increasingly dawning on me in this last six months or so in my practice and it is this:
When I was 18 years old, I jumped on the “New Age” bandwagon. I read books, went to workshops, watched videos. One of the essential messages of New Age thought is that “You create your reality”. This is something I have believed, even ardently perhaps.
The problem with this particular message is, many people find themselves struggling to create the life, body, relationship, etc of their dreams. Unable to overcome the obstacles in their way, they then go on to blame themselves, and feel ashamed of their inadequacies. Negative judgments abound.
What I have come to see is that we are actually far far more affected by unseen influences – our ancestors, our gestation, birth, and earliest childhood, our environment, our deep subconscious beliefs – than we can even begin to realize.
While I believe that we are essentially generative of our experiences, through the vibrational patterning of our electromagnetic fields, it has become increasingly obvious most of the creation of our realities is coming from a place beneath, and often far beneath, our conscious minds.
The notion that “we create our realities” tends to lump 100% of the responsibility of these creations with the conscious mind. It also basically infers that we are little islands of autonomous power, unaffected by our past, the past of our genetic lines, as well as these features in the people around us and the environment in which we live.
And the bottom line is, there is really no separating ourselves from any of these factors.
Time and time again I come across people who are unable to move forward in their lives, unable to make real and lasting change – and I trace the causes for this back to forces in play long before they were even even “conscious”.
How can your conscious mind change or overcome something it has no connection to? One of the biggest things that gets in the way, that most of us have no idea about whatsoever, is a concept I am calling “energenetics” – not to be confused with epigenetics.
Epigenetics “literally means “above” or “on top of” genetics. It refers to external modifications to DNA that turn genes “on” or “off.” These modifications do not change the DNA sequence, but instead, they affect how cells “read” genes” (livescience.com)
Basically what epigenetics says is that your genetic expression can be altered by environmental inputs.
Energenetics, on the other hand, is the tone of the genetic song that you have inherited. For example, if there is a history of depression in one or both sides of your ancestry, that tone (which sounds like a low undertone reflected in the tuning fork) will be present in your DNA. Your experience of your depression could be simply something you inherited, and not really “yours” as we tend to think.
These emotional inheritances, of sadness, of anger, of frustration, of powerlessness, influence us far more than most of us realize. And what I see people doing, over and over again, is claiming ownership of these tonal inheritances and then beating themselves up when they struggle unsuccessfully to shift them.
I even had this experience myself: I had a constant low level background feeling of sadness for as long as I could remember. It would especially come up when I exercised, sweat, or did yoga. No matter how much I tried to heal it, it just wouldn’t budge.
Then, in a session I received from one of my students, it became evident to both of us that this sadness was actually not even mine but my mother’s. I had absorbed it in utero, I had inherited it on a cellular level.
As soon as I realized that it wasn’t mine, I was able to let it go. It was as simple as that. And, the Biofield Tuning also helped- to reveal it, and to harmonize it. However numerous sessions prior to this realization had failed to crack that nut – it was the healing plus the awareness that allowed my to let it go.
I often find that when we are struggling with some kind of difficult and persistent emotion or behavior we can’t seem to fix, we tend to turn to some kind of addiction to repress it- this could be sugar, alcohol, shopping, tv, etc. Take a good look at what you might be repressing and the next time you are confronted by something in your behavior that is confounding and defies resolution, ask yourself the questions “where did this come from?” “to whom does this really belong?” “is this really mine?” “can I let this go if it isn’t mine?”.
You may be surprised at what the answer is!